Jaya had thought of attending the wedding of a close family friend in Delhi but had almost decided not to go since I had no regular nurse who understood my dumb charades. Then a nurse came who was a quick learner and agreed to stay for a month which covered the duration of the trip and it again seemed a possibility.
I warmed to the nurse initially.I usually watch TV only when lying down and the channels will generally be news, sports or nature which the nurses will not be interested in watching. Once when I was lying on the bed watching TV, I told her to keep whatever channels she wanted since there was nothing that I wanted to watch. The problem was that she then monopolized the TV for the remainder of her stay. She would keep vague Tamil movies and songs none of which I wanted to watch. When some nice song like this or this came, she would say, 'How boring!' and change the channel much to my frustration. I used to keep quiet since I wanted her to stay till Jaya's Delhi trip was over.
She would mostly keep what are known in Tamil as dapankuttu songs - songs that have loud music and lots of people indulging in vigorous dances eg. this one. Some of these songs are fun to watch sometimes but if you have to watch them for a few hours a day for a month, it becomes trying. She was a big fan of the Tamil actor Vijay and she used to watch any Vijay song that came. I do like some Vijay songs eg. this one but none of them came during the whole month.
A similar thing happened with the computer. She wanted to know how to surf and I showed her how to enter the search string in Google. This proved to be my undoing because after that she wouldn't let me use the computer. She would keep looking at the pictures of Tamil film stars. When Jaya was at home, I could ask her to intervene diplomatically but when she had gone to Delhi, I had to keep quiet. I did not want to tell Sujit because he could get into an angry argument with her and I was afraid this might make her leave in a huff which would leave me in the lurch.
Once when Jaya was in Delhi and I was lying on the bed, the nurse turned the monitor away from me, closed and bolted the door and started surfing. This made me suspicious of what she was doing and I was also afraid that some virus might enter the computer because of her random clicking. I told Sujit to switch off the modem when the nurse was not in the room. She could not understand why she was unable to access the Internet for which we maintained the fiction that it was a BSNL problem which could be solved only after Jaya returned from Delhi.
I also found it difficult to read books because she would be so absorbed in watching TV that I would find it difficult to attract her attention when I wanted to turn the page. Sometimes while turning a page, she will freeze midway through her action mesmerised by the action on TV and will complete the action after a few minutes. I got so exasperated that I stopped reading books when Jaya went to Delhi.
Since now I couldn't read books, watch T.V. or use the computer, I spent the time in another room waiting movies on a laptop with Sujit. I saw two interesting movies at this time : OMG - Oh My God and Mr. and Mrs. Iyer (which is mostly in English). Although the storyline of the latter movie is different, it reminded me of Ruskin Bond's short story, The Night Train at Deoli.
I warmed to the nurse initially.I usually watch TV only when lying down and the channels will generally be news, sports or nature which the nurses will not be interested in watching. Once when I was lying on the bed watching TV, I told her to keep whatever channels she wanted since there was nothing that I wanted to watch. The problem was that she then monopolized the TV for the remainder of her stay. She would keep vague Tamil movies and songs none of which I wanted to watch. When some nice song like this or this came, she would say, 'How boring!' and change the channel much to my frustration. I used to keep quiet since I wanted her to stay till Jaya's Delhi trip was over.
She would mostly keep what are known in Tamil as dapankuttu songs - songs that have loud music and lots of people indulging in vigorous dances eg. this one. Some of these songs are fun to watch sometimes but if you have to watch them for a few hours a day for a month, it becomes trying. She was a big fan of the Tamil actor Vijay and she used to watch any Vijay song that came. I do like some Vijay songs eg. this one but none of them came during the whole month.
A similar thing happened with the computer. She wanted to know how to surf and I showed her how to enter the search string in Google. This proved to be my undoing because after that she wouldn't let me use the computer. She would keep looking at the pictures of Tamil film stars. When Jaya was at home, I could ask her to intervene diplomatically but when she had gone to Delhi, I had to keep quiet. I did not want to tell Sujit because he could get into an angry argument with her and I was afraid this might make her leave in a huff which would leave me in the lurch.
Once when Jaya was in Delhi and I was lying on the bed, the nurse turned the monitor away from me, closed and bolted the door and started surfing. This made me suspicious of what she was doing and I was also afraid that some virus might enter the computer because of her random clicking. I told Sujit to switch off the modem when the nurse was not in the room. She could not understand why she was unable to access the Internet for which we maintained the fiction that it was a BSNL problem which could be solved only after Jaya returned from Delhi.
I also found it difficult to read books because she would be so absorbed in watching TV that I would find it difficult to attract her attention when I wanted to turn the page. Sometimes while turning a page, she will freeze midway through her action mesmerised by the action on TV and will complete the action after a few minutes. I got so exasperated that I stopped reading books when Jaya went to Delhi.
Since now I couldn't read books, watch T.V. or use the computer, I spent the time in another room waiting movies on a laptop with Sujit. I saw two interesting movies at this time : OMG - Oh My God and Mr. and Mrs. Iyer (which is mostly in English). Although the storyline of the latter movie is different, it reminded me of Ruskin Bond's short story, The Night Train at Deoli.
Jaya had thought of attending the wedding of a close family friend in Delhi but had almost decided not to go since I had no regular nurse who understood my dumb charades. Then a nurse came who was a quick learner and agreed to stay for a month which covered the duration of the trip and it again seemed a possibility.father daughter wedding songs
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